Marriage is a career
Taking a position is not a good strategy in marriage. Positions require a defense. When you find yourself attacking or defending positions your marriage is not over and can recover. Its just a matter of understanding how. Fake wisdom will stop feelings of being in love.
Marriage is hard work or so we are told. I believe it to be work indeed but not hard work. There are many reasons that cause a break down in marriage. If you feel like you are being taken for granted, your needs are not being met, you are a single parent in a marriage, not heard, arguing all the time, blamed for things that you can’t control or more is demanded from you, or they put the least effort in to take the most benefit out?
The reason is one person becomes selfish, there was a time when you were in love and something changed. You moved into the friendship zone or life took over. Children took over. Time just became scares. Me time disappeared. Often the question is not asked, “what would you like me to say or do to alleviate this problem?” Picking our fights would be of benefit instead of accusing. Instead of being critical be curious. Be careful and attentive and not crushing and destructive. Ask questions and don’t assume you know the right answer. Try and connect and step into their shoes before being correct. In short do the things that work for you and your partner instead of being right.
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