Its all in the little things

How many of you spend time on your feelings of rejection and lack of value in your marriage? Fighting over things that seem so important and probably are? What about the person who thinks they are a hero because they go to work as they should anyway and do things so important that it takes precedence over the people they claim to love? If your partner ignores you most of the time or tells you they are too busy to spend time with you, what do you do about it? Do you have a self-pity party, throw guilt everywhere, complain all the time, have temper tantrums, be angry or grumpy all the time? There are so many reasons why communication that was so easy in the past breaks down in a marriage. Often emotions are allowed to rule thinking. Emotions are not very clear and often cloud clear thinking. Plus, emotions force us to think in the past and present at the same time. Certainty becomes uncertainty during these arguments. Familiarity breeds contempt as the saying goes, happens when we have been living together and know each other’s triggers that we forget who we are talking to. Take a step back and breath a moment and think if these arguments are really what you want. If they are scoring points and you are right all the time, prepare for the worst. It’s coming fast. Or you can try and figure out what you can do to make it work. Trying to fix your marriage after divorce is very difficult. If you really want to save your marriage, perfect the small things every day. THINGS LIKE HOW YOU HAVE BREAKFAST WITH YOUR PARTNER AND CHILDREN. One hour of dedicated time shared with your partner in the morning will change your life for the better. Make the effort to not complain about anything. How you are greeted at the door when you come home should be a wonderful a ten-minute ritual. It is important yet seems insignificant. If done with pleasure, love and gratitude, it will change your life. These things have a huge ripple effect and these things cause such huge positive change in your life and relationships very quickly it is almost unbelievable. Can you see the sense in this? Do you do this?